She Holds It

This week brought some deeply emotional moments with Body Bella clients.

To the kindhearted men out there - if you are feeling frustrated with a woman’s weight, whether she is your wife, sister, daughter, or friend - I want you to hear this clearly.

Your comments, even when meant to be helpful, are not helping.

I understand that men often tease as a way to bond. You poke at each other, then move on. But women are not wired this way. When you make a passive-aggressive comment about her weight, she does not let it go.

She holds it.

She holds it in her heart, and it turns into stress. That stress activates cortisol. Cortisol tells her body to store fat and demand sugar, not because she lacks willpower, but because her physiology is responding to a perceived threat.

Your body does not care if you are happy or healthy.
It does not care what size clothes you wear.
It just wants to keep you alive.

So when a woman hears a comment that shames or pressures her, her body reacts as if she is running from a bear. Not consciously, but biologically.

Do you really think she doesn’t already feel like she needs to lose weight?

I have been there - 50 pounds overweight, drowning in self-doubt, wasting money on failed programs, feeling like a failure. I felt broken. And so does she.

But she is not broken.
Her body is doing exactly what it is supposed to do in response to the signals it’s getting.
Sometimes, the signal is coming from you.

That is hard to hear. I know.
Even the sweetest people in our lives can say hurtful things without realizing how much pain we already carry.

In 2024, the weight loss industry earned $163 billion. They profit from our confusion. It’s an industry that hopes we keep failing so we keep coming back. But that is not what we do at Body Bella.
Here, we teach you how your body works.
Women lose 10 to 15 pounds per month with real food and physiological balance.
The weight comes off, yes - but what matters most is getting your life back.

This week, we went through a box of tissues in the office.
Not because the women doubted me.
But because they didn’t believe it could work for them.
Not yet.

In the months ahead, they will come dancing into my office, celebrating the little things - more energy, better moods, fewer cravings, no more acid reflux, improved sleep, and joints that no longer hurt. It’s always so exciting because that just lists a few.

And those wins? They are real. Every word of every WINS-sheet we post is written by our clients.

Sometimes the wins are even bigger - like fitting in an airplane seat without a seatbelt extender, or not feeling embarrassed in a small airplane bathroom, or being able to walk or do stairs without feeling winded.

Has your weight ever created a hardship like that?

Life moves fast. The moments we miss - playing on the floor with our grandchildren or simply having the energy to enjoy the day - can feel like lost time.

But they are not wasted.
Everything you have lived through becomes the foundation for the change ahead.
And that change is yours to keep.

Weight loss happens quickly here, in a healthy way.
But this is not a quick fix.

If you are showing up, reading your emails, coming to your appointments, emailing me as needed and being honest about what is really happening - we will meet you with understanding. No shame.

We want to help you figure out why that cookie keeps happening. Or why breakfast keeps getting skipped.
Because you matter.

You, the beautiful and strong person who carries so much while others say they are just trying to help.

Today, those words hurt because you are overwhelmed.
But once we help you understand what your body needs, everything changes.

Take a breath.
We are ready for you.

Love,
Dr. Brookh Lyons
Body Bella Transformations

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2920 S Webster Ave #101
Green Bay, WI 54301

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